Real vs. Fake

Somehow ~ I have been having the feeling of FAKE!

ppl are being so fake!

not all of them of course, but some of them definitely are.


You pull out all your heart to treat someone well,
but it's just not what you will feedback with.

I hate those fake ppl, and I don't like this environment at all.

I do NOT wish to stay in this environment even for 1 minute longer.

I don't want to get all dirty like they are,
and I don't want to see them as friends anymore.


Someone who could act as nice, but then stab behind your back,
someone who could say one thing, but do the other.


You think you are being treated unfairly,
you think you are being treated harshly,
you think I am being so lucky.

How much do you know about me?
How much do you think I have never been through?

You just don't know how lucky you are,
and how much people can be jealous about you!


damn it!

(sorry for my bad language, but I can't help it!)

【聯強EMBA】要理解才去做，但無法理解也要去做‏

【聯強EMBA】要理解才去做，但無法理解也要去做
作者：杜書伍 (聯強國際集團總裁兼執行長)

　　我們經常提倡：做事之前要充分理解事物的精神、內涵，執行時才會做的又快又好，且能夠真正有所體悟、學習。這是針對順從性高、不喜歡動腦筋、或習慣於不假思索「拿來就做」的人，提醒其切莫陷入不動腦筋的習性，而不自知。

然而我們也發現，習慣「要理解才去做」的人，有時也會陷入另一種型態的僵化：「只做理解的事情」。這類人非常堅持「要理解才去做」的原則，甚至當他「無法理解」時，還會非常理直氣壯的要求對方必須說服他，否則就沒辦法做。其邏輯乍聽之下不無道理，實則令人哭笑不得。

實務經驗告訴我們，理解能力與個人閱歷的多寡，及悟性的高低有關。年輕、資淺者閱歷有限，對於未曾經歷的新事物，本來就未必能很快了解、認知；而即便是資深人員，其閱歷亦有其偏向。更何況世界之大，無奇不有，無人能百分之百了然萬事萬物的道理。所以「不聽老人言，吃虧在眼前」這句俗語，並不是陳腔濫調；它其實指出了任一人視界必有侷限的自然律，以及前輩智慧的價值。

所以，看待無法理解事物的正確觀念，應是先接受進來，透過「做中學」，一邊做一邊理解。當旁人提點要去做某件事、或該去注意某件事時，應盡力去理解其說明；假使未能通透理解，也應該先「照著去做」，一面做一面去體悟其道理，一面體悟再一面比對、提問。只要用心，必能在實做的過程中，悟透大部分的道理。否則，因為大部分的事物都未經歷過，豈不是好多事情都不能做、不必做；如此一來，個人將無法擴增歷練範疇，組織的政策也就無法推動。

更何況，以我閱人的經驗，多數將「要理解才去做」當作排拒事物理由的人，骨子裡他是不認同，他是反對。因為，當被問到哪裡不理解時，他們往往說不上來，禁不起旁人一再催促、追問，只好以此為藉口，含糊帶過。究其根源，他們是反射性的排斥他不認同的事物，也就是犯了「本能叛逆」的毛病而不自知。

否則，真正掌握「要理解才去做」真諦者，對於無法理解的事物，他仍會嘗試去「理解」、「認知」、「深度理解」（請參考「善性循環的啟動圖」）。確實思考後，他必能發現有些地方是不對的，是不可行的，是有瑕疵的；而能提出為何不對、不可行、或有瑕疵的理由，並請求主管或旁人解惑。絕對不會單以「不理解」這個說法，簡單回應。

因此，大家應該認知到，廣義的「要理解才去做」，應是「要理解才去做，但無法理解也要去做」；更重要的是，個人切莫以「要理解才能做」來掩飾自己的「本能叛逆」的習性。而主管也應能洞悉這類以此為藉口者的人格特質，而能真正導正部屬的習性，有效輔導改正。 (Y60831)

(本文取材自「聯強EMBA」，為聯強國際集團內部管理課程主題)

Motivation!

最近感到生活失去了 動力

什麼都不想想, 什麼也不想做, 想發呆就好!

對未來的路充滿的茫然與徬徨

什麼是適合我的~
什麼是我想要的~
什麼是我能做的~

每回想著想著就會想到自己的許多缺點:

沒自信
沒主見
沒勇氣
沒目標
沒才華
沒天分

我想缺乏自信是我最大的敗筆


如果能對自己多點自信

今天的我應該不會只是現在這樣子吧

?自信該從哪去建立?去培養?去尋找?

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與zoe在msn的對話:

J: 我是不是比較沒有主見
Z: 我覺得不是沒主見
J: 不然是?
Z: 是大部分時候覺得都沒差, 所以不會特別提出自己的意見
Z: 但是其實是有自己的主見的
J: 是這樣子嗎 XD
Z: 感覺最近一直在發現自己的缺點
Z: 但是, 如果你覺得別人的想法跟你的有分別, 或影響到妳, 還是會提出自己的意見的

我真的只是這樣子而已嗎? 當時心中的疑問!

每每跟大家聊天or看著大家的blog/plurk
總覺得大家對於自己都是有打算有計畫

反過來看看自己
除了會念書會考試, 還會什麼嗎
當有人問我 "你的休閒興趣是什麼"
往往都是答不出來

其實 有很多想學的東西
只是自己往往找藉口說沒空/太忙

等什麼什麼之後再來開始學

這樣的藉口只是無限循環下去啊

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現在的我

應該是很努力趕paper 趕實驗 趕碩論

可是

我就是什麼也不想做

怎麼辦才好


什麼才是生活的重心!

什麼才是可以驅動我的動力!



(ps: 覺得自己最近想的文章都好down喔)

Time is approaching~

Two years have almost gone by.
The nerve and pressure of getting the thesis done on time is finally getting onto me.

Look back to the past two years~

Life in graduate school;
I wish to express it as interesting or exciting, but I found it to be more frustrating and boring.

It's either lab or home, not much other choices.
Going to Taipei once couple of months is the chance for me to get out of this routine life style.

Is it just me or grad. school life, I wonder!


By reading back the blogs I wrote before I have came back to Taiwan,
I found myself or my writing to be rather more interesting or u could use the word "diverse".

Was it the right choice to go for grad. school?
I don't think this is the right question I should be asking myself right now.

But I would say that I am really looking forward to the life after graduation,
even though I am not sure where I will be and what I would be working,
One thing I know for certain is that I am not wishing much to stay at home anymore.

When you are a student, you always wish to get out of school and work.
When you once start working, you could wish to be back at student life again.
It's just the cycle of life.
Since I am still a student at this moment, I really think it's time for me to get out of current life.

LONG LONG time no see~~

I haven't been checking back into this blog site every since moved to the new one.
But due to some personal issues that I have decided to temperatory turn-off the new one as well.
Since then, I have become extremely lazy of writing blogs......
Really really apologized for those still checking on my blog.


Why I am back here again?!

Good question~

Just that it has past mid-night here at Taiwan, but I am still working on my PPT presentation for the coming Saturday.
And I decided to google search on my name a bit....

The GOOGLE GOD~ this is how I found my way back into this blog~

Anyway,

Just saying HI HI Hi to those who still caring and checking on me~

I am doing ok over here in grad. school, hopefully to be able to graduate this Aug.

I will come back and write things occasionally.


love you all~~